An Unfair and Unexpected Reality When It Comes to Alimony: Mother Asks Chicago Sun Times Columnist What to Do about Daughters Who Dislike Her for Receiving Maintenance from Their Father

Let’s face it: sometimes life just is not fair, and there is not much that we can do about it. Like the famous alternative music song hit by Alanis Morisette, Ironic, we sometimes have to ask ourselves, “Isn’t it ironic…don’t you think?” when “It’s like rain on your wedding day, it’s a free ride when you already paid. It’s the good advice, that you just didn’t take, and who would’ve thought—it figures?” One mother of two adult daughters who recently divorced her alcoholic husband knows the feeling all-too-well, and asked Chicago Sun Times Columnist Ask Abby what to do about her daughters who dislike her due to receiving alimony from their father.

“Incredulous in Oregon” wrote-in to famous Chicago advice columnist Ask Abby with an Ironic-worthy question. Incredulous in Oregon explained that she has been divorced for nine years from her alcoholic husband of 20 years. Before she divorced her husband, and the father of their four children, she was a stay-at-home mother. Incredulous in Oregon went on to explain, “After we divorced, my two adult daughters abandoned me because I receive spousal support from their father. Whenever I let them know that I miss them, the only answer they give me is that they will resume a relationship when I “stop taking the money.” Incredulous in Oregon also noted that her daughters were close with her for years, but they have now essentially blocked communication. With a final plea, Incredulous in Oregon wrote, “I would love to have a relationship with them, but everything is a dead end. If you’re wondering, yes, the money is used for living expenses, help, etc. Please help.”

Ask Abby provided clear, unwavering, and bright-line advice for the distraught divorcee and mother: “So your daughters have decided to side with their drunkard of a father and are trying to blackmail you into submission. PLEASE don’t allow them to get away with it. Continue taking the alimony to which you are ENTITLED, and go on with your life. You can only hope that your daughters will eventually see the light. As I see it, you really have no other choice because, at this point, you are dependent on those funds to survive.”

Getting Legal Help with Alimony and Spousal Maintenance in Chicago

As Ask Abby indicates, alimony is something to which a court can award a party in a Chicago divorce case, meaning that that party is entitled to the spousal support. Those seeking alimony in their Chicago divorce case should consider this element of the Chicago divorce process and seek legal help to determine their rights and responsibilities with regard to alimony or spousal maintenance.

If you are seeking legal assistance with spousal maintenance or alimony in Chicago, contact the experienced Chicago maintenance lawyers at the law firm Arnoux Sharma Standeford, LLC. The experienced Chicago maintenance lawyers at the law firm Arnoux Sharma Standeford, LLC are here to help Chicago individuals with their alimony and spousal maintenance issues. Do not hesitate to speak to a lawyer about your case today. Contact the experienced Chicago maintenance lawyers at the law firm Arnoux Sharma Standeford, LLC, and speak to a lawyer about your case today.

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