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Struggling with Coping after Your Chicago Divorce? These Signs May Point to “Yes”

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Although there is no doubt that divorce is no longer seen as a “taboo” subject, like it was in our parents’ and grandparents’ eras, it is also true that, even though divorce may be more prevalent these days, it certainly is not any easier. Indeed, while more Chicago individuals and couples may be heading to the courthouse with higher frequency to initiate dissolution of marriage proceedings, many do so with a heavy heart and feelings of depression, guilt, mourning, and shame. If you are struggling with the aftermath (or the dissolution process) of your Chicago divorce, the important thing to know is that you are not alone. The grief that many people feel during and after the divorce process is something that is widespread, and is becoming a popular topic for self-care and self-help advocates across the country (and the globe). Fortunately, with the “normalization” of divorce in our modern day, there are also more resources for divorcing individuals to help them cope with the challenges and complexities of divorce. One resource comes from an unlikely source: Brides magazine. In order to help Chicago residents better navigate the difficulties of divorce, we discuss several signs that you may be struggling with your Chicago divorce from the experts at Brides.

Do these Signs Seem Familiar? If so, You May be Struggling with the Aftermath of Your Divorce

At the outset, an important point that Brides makes is that even if you are the “initiator” of the divorce, it is still perfectly natural to feel grief over divorce proceedings. Brittany Jenkins, M.A. LMFT, says of grief after divorce, “The grief of losing a relationship and a person you loved can be one of the deepest pains…It often inflames deep inner wounds of abandonment and rejection that can be very difficult for people to recover from without intentional effort. People may not realize the amount of transitions that will result from ending a marriage, so they can be caught off guard by the depth of their experience.” How can a person tell if they are truly struggling with the aftermath of divorce? According to the experts, here are several signs:

  • Falling work performance;
  • Withdrawing from friends, family, and social connections;
  • Feelings of anger and irritability;
  • Disinterest in activities that you previously enjoyed;
  • Feelings of negativity about romantic relationships;
  • Lack of hygiene, grooming, or “taking care of yourself”;
  • Feelings of wanting to hide;
  • Self-harm or thoughts of self-harm;
  • Feelings of self-shame;
  • Comparing yourself to your ex’s new romantic interests;
  • Speaking badly about your ex in settings that are inappropriate (parties, to children, etc.);
  • Lack of wanting to return to dating again after divorce.

If you are experiencing any of these signs, it may be an indication that you are truly struggling with your divorce, and you may consider seeking out help.

Legal Help with Your Chicago Divorce

If you are in the Chicago area and you are seeking legal help with your Chicago divorce, contact the experienced Chicago divorce lawyers at the law firm Arnoux Sharma Standeford, LLC. Contact the experienced Chicago divorce lawyers at the law firm Arnoux Sharma Standeford, LLC and discuss your rights and options with a Chicago lawyer now.

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