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Can a Salad Help Get You Through a Divorce? How a Salad Made One Woman Realize She Didn’t Need Couples’ Counseling, She Only Needed Herself

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Can a salad get someone through a difficult patch in their marriage, a rough separation, or a heated divorce? One writer for Bon Appetit magazine says that it can, at least for her. In the forward to a bean-forward salad that Emily Farris of Bon Appetit created during a time in her life after she and husband had attempted couple’s therapy, Farris explains that she thought that she needed someone to take care of her. However, what she later found out is that “What I needed was to care for myself.”

Farris relates about the moments leading up to her divorce, and that “made” the salad, “Couples counseling had only made things worse, so I decided to enroll in an intensive summer therapy program. If it didn’t fix me enough to save my marriage, at least I’d be able to say I tried everything I could. In addition to the sessions, I was encouraged to prioritize rest, sustenance, and activities that brought me joy. More than once the facilitating therapist told me: ‘You can’t make decisions from your wise mind if you’re sleep-deprived and hangry.’” Farris decided to grab some ingredients from the grocery store when her husband went on a work trip and became inspired with a new-found resolve to get “back into the kitchen.” After perfecting the salad and sitting back to eat it, Farris writes, “As I stood at the counter loading my fork with my favorite flavors and textures, my mind wandered back to when I was in my 20s, living alone in a big, cheap apartment. At that point I was still years away from understanding my brain in clinical terms, but I had cobbled together a series of scrappy systems that worked for me. Perhaps if I’d slowed down, I would have been able to articulate the other ways I longed to be loved. Or maybe not. All I know is I’d been far too eager to rush into what I imagined would be a new and exciting future with a man who could provide something I felt I was missing. Now I see the care I sought had to begin within me.”

Farris then notes that couples’ therapy helped her realize something – but not exactly what most couples hope when they go to couples’ counseling. Farris writes, “The therapy that was supposed to save my marriage helped me realize I needed to leave it.” She then metaphorically adds, “The salad was perfect already. It had everything I needed.”

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For some, a salad can be the deciding factor when it comes to ending a marriage, for others, the case may be different. No matter what the reason or deciding factor is, however, the truth is that no person should have to go through the complex Chicago divorce process alone.

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